I’ve come to realize just how important being able to control your thoughts is. This may seem obvious, and I guess it is, but when we really stop and consider the affects of negative thoughts on daily life, it’s quite striking really.
For instance, try an experiment. When you’re in a decent mood, stop and think about one of the worst times in your life. Something that really impacted you on an emotional level, and changed the way you viewed the world. Perhaps a moment of violence. I’m not trying to torture you here, only to get you to see that your thoughts have an immediate impact of your biology. Your face will get pale, as blood is shunted to vital organs. Your hands may get cold and clammy, for the same reasons. Perhaps you find yourself clenching your teeth and your face becoming warm from a rise in blood pressure.
I take the cognitive view of psycho therapy. That’s not to say that I don’t recognize things like chemical imbalances and such, but it’s obvious that thoughts can control to some extant those very same chemicals that some believe they must controlled with pills.
There’s a looped recording in your head. I’m sure you listen to it everyday. It’s says good things and it says negative things. What percentage of good and bad differs in us all. And sometimes we need to hear bad. It may drive us to change behavior that needs changing. But also, you may be hearing or thinking about things that are stunting your growth. Broken past relationships, failures, weaknesses, conflicts. We should not be reliving those times on a daily basis. We should only be employing the lessons we learned from them .
Needlessly reliving past horrors be they an hour or a decade in the past is like continuously throwing sand into the gears of your life’s machine.